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Post by Antz on Jan 21, 2006 1:02:38 GMT
Do you feel that its right to be married off because it's in your families heritage to do so?
please express your views
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Post by [dannehpoot] on Jan 21, 2006 12:50:15 GMT
arranged marriages are wrong in my opinion, your marrying someone and making a promise to god about love and stuff, but if you have never met this other person how can you love them?
But religious influence in south asian families is still widley there.
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Post by Lyn on Jan 21, 2006 23:52:57 GMT
It happens in England too. But generally it is people from an asian heritage that get arranged marriages. Personally i thnk its wrong. But you can grow to love someone if you are forced into it. It will happen over time. My parents had an arranged marriage and they're still together after many years.
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Post by [dannehpoot] on Jan 22, 2006 11:32:04 GMT
what would you say if your mum and dad arranged you a marriage lyn?
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Post by Lyn on Jan 22, 2006 16:55:18 GMT
I would probably run away. lol. I dunno. If i couldn't find anyone myself then I would probably consider it if I was desperate. But that would be as a last resort. Cos I wanna get married, have kids etc and I don't wanna single all my life. So I dunno. If they made me marry someone when I was still young then I'd run! But to be honest, I don't think they would make me marry someone I didn't want to. It's a thing you do for life and if your not happy doing it then why should you commit your life to it?
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Post by Antz on Jan 22, 2006 22:07:07 GMT
my dad had an arranged marriage. he married this fat fuck. we all hate her. he only married her to respect his fathers views. that was 13 years ago. disgrace i say.
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Post by Tomson on Jan 23, 2006 10:07:20 GMT
if i was forced into it and she was very attractive then yeah its ok but if she was very vile and ugly then absolutely not
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Post by Antz on Jan 23, 2006 15:19:26 GMT
like on east is east, anyone seen it? there geting aranged to be married and run off, i cant blame them realy haha
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Post by Kazuya on Feb 27, 2006 21:30:29 GMT
I cant tell you how aganist this I am.
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Post by [dannehpoot] on Feb 27, 2006 22:16:45 GMT
if i was forced into it and she was very attractive then yeah its ok but if she was very vile and ugly then absolutely not this was meant to be an intellectual discussion about life long shit, want to be married to someone you dont know forever? even if they are hot?
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Post by carter on Feb 28, 2006 18:05:47 GMT
if i was forced into it and she was very attractive then yeah its ok but if she was very vile and ugly then absolutely not this was meant to be an intellectual discussion about life long shit, want to be married to someone you dont know forever? even if they are hot? If the sex is good, why not? ;D Jk.
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Post by Name$ - Ca$H on Feb 28, 2006 19:28:58 GMT
i agree wid tomson acctually if the woman was hot n funny why not marry her if there was no1 else if my dad came up 2 me n sed i was gettin married 2 some1 ive never seen b4 ide hv 2 say "well how she look ?" but i probz wouldnt go threw with it i like 2 make my own dicisions
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Post by Tha Prophecy on Mar 1, 2006 11:34:14 GMT
looks arent everything she can be hot but totally evil. i don't agree with it at all i dont like the idea of it
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Post by Siobhan on Mar 1, 2006 11:43:58 GMT
if it's what you're brought up with and what you believe in then fair enough.. although it isn't something that I would ever agree to.
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Post by analmunchkin on Mar 1, 2006 16:07:27 GMT
Arranged marriages are all well and good as a cultural factor, but for the people that actually believe that marrying is a promise to god to love a person it most often cannot work. However in cultures where love is not a factor the majority of the time, only the subservient role of the woman a patriarchal society is what matters, along with money.
Basically there is one majorly bad point from a feminist viewpoint: being turned into a slave in most cultures and not having the choice as to who you marry (especially if they are a wifebeater). But there is the good side; it removes all pressures off the woman to have to try and look beautiful all the time and attract a husband, the husband is already picked so the woman doesn't have to live up to unrealistic standards of beautry unlike in western culture.
Again though if you never met the person how can you love them? Of course Marx would say the purpose of the arranged marriage is to ensure the maintainence of power within the families of the bourgeoisie to keep the workers subservient (as well as the women). But Marx says that about everything, hes about as monotonous as Freud.
Freud what's that? A penis. Marx what's that? An ideological control mechanism for ensuring the ruling class' superior situation over that of the civil majority.
Congratulations, everyone who read that is now an expert of Freudian Psychoanlaysis and Marxist theory.
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